Speaker 1(00:00):
Like get in my way, never out of my name.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It’s been like you.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
One and the more one? So what is gonna be?
Bay Squad? Hey guys, welcome back.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
We are here for another episode of the Humble Baddies podcast.
I’m here Ashley Nicole and I got my girls with me.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
And I’m Alexis Stotamayer. We are the old Baddies.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Yes, what’s up y’all? Happy Hume Day. We’re back this Wednesday.
Everybody good? What’s everybody been up to?
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Cheryl? Good to see you. I’m like, really talk about
me today?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Clear?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Yeah? Your Wi fi? Whyians today? Okay? Are you still
in the Motherlands?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Well I am okay, what’s going on up there? What’s that?
I had two people go up on the country yesterday?
Well thanks, it’s still yesterday because it’s one of okay,
I meant gratulations and we.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Thing that’s awesome. O. Well, I just came back from
the beach, you know this break.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Actually though there were like it was very calm in
South Beach, like there’s no spring Breakers and so I
was like, where are all the people at? So you know,
they put out that commercial like they didn’t they did
not want spring Breakers in South Beach from South Beach right.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Now, if they’re not there.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Last week I was there and I get pulled over,
so I have my front window, but I have a
doctor’s letter because I get headaches when the sun just
shine right on me.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Every time. I get think fully over, get your bed.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
They’re intagging everything and everything, and I was like, sorry,
you’re with well anyway, I thought there was gonna be
crazy crowds out there. I thought it was gonna be
girls going wild out there, but it’s not.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
It was real calm and cool and collected.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
I heard all the spring breakers are in like Port
Lauderdale now lay up north. They probably like Daytona Beach
like those other beaches because southeasch and I haven’t it. Yeah,
And speaking of spring break, my babies are on spring
break and it’s actually been very quiet around the house
because they are with their dad. So I’m low key
(02:36):
having an adult spring break. You know, it’s a lot
between school work, all these things that the children are
balancing too, and us parents who monitor their calendars and
have to.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
Schlep them all over the place.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
We need this break too, as spring as spring breakers,
you know, the parents. But I have an extra spring
break just because I get to have a quiet home.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
So like I’m living in.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Paradise over here, enjoying it, only cooking for one a
little key, you know, things like that, and it kind
of can move when I want to move.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
So I appreciate that. So shout out to.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
The co parent for, you know, holding it down over
there while the boys are and the girl you know,
raised in and out.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
But like the boys, he got the boys.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
So I’m having I’m having a good time over here.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I put.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
I sent my kids for a cruise with I love that,
I know, but they came back sick, both my daughter
and them. They have the stomach virus. It’s from the cruise. Man,
that’s the worst, especially coming off of vacation. You want
to have a good time and not be worrying about
(03:47):
that none of that stuff.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Yeah, I can’t do it. I just finished my last lab.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Guys in culinary school iratulate.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Shame so much.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
So I’m like, don’t celebrating this. I’m taking care of business. Yeah,
so when can we officially call you? Almost I have
an entrepreneurship class and the externship in a commercial kitchen,
and then you can call me chefflet.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Okay, well say the question is when are you gonna cook?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
On you?
Speaker 1 (04:21):
You always have some food. I’m always cooking, be coming
for thank you so much. Let’s do that. I’m down.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Since the house empty, will come and feel it that
will come and fill.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Out, thank you.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
My house is always open, always, always, always well.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
I want to give a shout out to my mom.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
That because she is officially doctor in that I know,
i’mkaying O g humble. He just recently, actually yesterday I
logged in and watched her defend her thesis. She is
getting her she got her doctorate and I think like
(05:00):
education something something something, I don’t know it’ll matter, but
she a doctor now, okay, so address her as such.
So doctor, mimmy, I am so proud of it. I
love you so much, and go you girl. You did
your thing, so proud And she going around saying that too,
like a dressed me.
Speaker 1 (05:18):
You can’t call her name now, but I know that’s right,
that’s okay. She learned that she shout out to doctors.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
The original O gum yeah yeah, okay, well let’s get
into it now that we didn’t caught up, and you know,
I’m seeing everybody everybody’s good, everybody’s living and thriving.
Speaker 1 (05:43):
Let’s get into the first topic.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
The first topic we have is Kylie Jenner sparks reactions
after calling herself the original batty and new photos.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Did any of y’all see that about herself?
Speaker 2 (05:58):
That’s cute, but it’s a mess because colleague, now you know, girl,
you are not the original Baddy. It’s amazing original anything exactly?
Speaker 1 (06:10):
I mean, what what was she referring to?
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Like, let’s freaking let’s put out original original meaning like
the like original means og. First of all, puts some
respect on Kim Ashley because if it wasn’t for Kim,
it would be no you like for real, Like like
Kim Kardashian, if were talking about the OG, she’s the OG.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Like, so what is Kylie talking about? I mean she.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
Literally set the path for her and her sisters, Like
she has to give credit where credit is due.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Like that’s cute though, Like, I mean that’s cute. You
know she wants to be I.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Wouldn’t even say it’s Kim. I wasn’t say that too, Like,
let’s really take it up. The baddy the mom just
set her up business. I’m not saying, but really like
the face of everything. She holds it down for like
the family, Like at the end of the day, whenever
it’s anything like big in the tabloids or whatever, like
(07:10):
it’s Kim, but it’s not. It’s not the mom that
we’re talking about. It’s Kim that we’re talking about. You
know what I mean. Kim is the og But that’s
kind of is cute, you know, she’s but let’s give
Collie her her flowers in her own way because she
is a billionaire, and.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
It’s not she’s not the original.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
And we ain’t even talking about the So we’re talking
about like we have other people out there. We have
what little Kim, We’ve got Rihanna, we have a whole
planthorroaw of other women that have been out there that
are original bandis before she even came to the picture.
So that was definitely a bold statement from her to
caption that you’re the original. But long key, let me
(07:53):
just throw this out there too, like my our generation
of the ladies or my kids for example, they know
about Kim being married to Kanye and having the kids
right where our children are more like looking at her
because she was the five of her children is Travis
Scott and she has the lip kits, all these things
(08:14):
and pretty much we saw her growing up.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
So she is basically, you know, Hollywood elite.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
She’s part of this America’s first family, you know, in hindsight,
so I see the evolution of her. But at the
same time, to call herself the original baddie, that’s pretty
high on the list.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Great confidence, you know. But you know, I wish you
a best with that.
Speaker 2 (08:41):
I mean, honestly, I feel like she should she should
actually be a little bit more humble because, like like
I said, I feel like her mom, mk like her sisters.
She’s the baby, the baby man, you had people to
learn from and people who you know, made mistakes that
(09:02):
you could learn from, you know what I mean. So
I don’t know that comes off really really not a
humble batty. But she and Maddie though she had that
you’re not an og batty and it didn’t come off humble.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
But it’s cute though, Man, she did.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
She she ain’t the original batty. She a batty, but
she ain’t the original. Let’s get that straight. Let’s put
that out there. I love that though that shout out
to a shout out to Kim though, Kim and Chris
and the whole Kardashian plan for example, Yeah, got it.
Do y’all feel like do y’all feel like she intentionally
(09:37):
or was she throwing shaded someone to say, to make
a post like that, to say the original thing. I mean,
what all these these millions of followers. I’m sure she
is top ten, right, I mean, I’m just can assume
it’s definitely gonna give a little topic of conversation.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
Hence, while we’re talking about it now, it’s trending.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
It’s all over the place, especially because she’s in the
beauty space too, of influence, and you know, she’s known
that her look could sell out and she has you know,
her baby girl, Stormy’s wearing the hottest you know, sneakers
and the whole line of everything.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
So she is really just being out there.
Speaker 2 (10:18):
I feel like it’s always a little bit of calculated,
you know, energy behind it, just for the marketing purposes
as well as look at Mama and look at just
how they have built everything. So of course it’s a
little bit of a little bit of hooking at press
and her followers and everything like that, just for us
to talk about it. I mean, it might be the
(10:39):
original look kit is coming out being resurfaced or whatever
the case may be. And she also knows that people
talk about her looks, her plastic surgery, her transformations and
her ugly duckling stages and all these things. So I
think she’s kind of owning it and also just want
us to talk about it. Maybe she meant her generation
(11:01):
like her age group. Maybe she means she’s the OG
of her you know, age group. I’m trying to figure
out the OG part of it. I mean, you know,
we got to give her credit. She is a businesswoman.
She is, like you said, she’s like one of the
most follow people on social media, you know. I mean,
(11:25):
it is what it is. So I think there is
like some truth behind what she’s saying. It’s just weird
to say OG. Oh No, I just felt like herself
the original Baddy. It’s like you ignoring all the women
who paid the way before you. It’s like, girl, you
ain’t the one.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
But she should be. She should be a humble Baddy.
So she should have put that out there, humble original.
Speaker 2 (11:52):
We’ll see her original should never been in that caption, baby,
because people did like spind it and really kind of
started like talking to UF about original.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
But it was just like original, what original? Where? Like
what’s the original?
Speaker 2 (12:06):
You know? First of all, pause by My mama just
texted me talking about she waiting on her shoutout.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
Girl, you okay, tell how to rewind the original?
Speaker 2 (12:19):
See looking at the og original humble Baddy, Mama wont
her shut out? Listen min already shout at you out. Okay,
doctor Roberts, shout out. I’m gonna shout you out again.
Shout out to doctor Roberts. She’s a real hungda Baddy’s.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
A real o g Well, she’s more of a blueberrig Baddy, right, hins.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That’s what you were saying, right, real like the ogs
and like think about the ones before you. You have
to think about the ones before you. Just not original body,
because you wait the original and that’s that period. That’s
that that’s funny. Yes, real, you got topic two for us.
(13:12):
You want to keep it moving. We you know how
you feeling sticks? He read, and while she is the
most hated rapper industry female rap most hated female rapper,
she thinks she says that because she is getting criticized
(13:33):
in regards to it. She did a podcast with Big
Boys neighborhood or interview, and she didn’t hold back y’all.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
She addressed that she received so much hate online.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
But I feel like, you know, us as women, we
dive into it because we all re see Nate. But
she taking she’s taking it to intentional and the thing
about it, she has to understand she is very talented.
She makes music. People are tuned in. Just because you
have that hate, you have more people supporting you. That’s
why you’re on the top. So sex to rich have
(14:06):
to remember like if they ain’t talking, if you ain’t
got no hate, to.
Speaker 1 (14:12):
Let them know.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
I feel like all rappers, though have made this statement
at some point.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Though.
Speaker 2 (14:18):
I feel like all rappers feel like everybody hates them,
everybody’s against them, you know, Like I feel like that’s
part of the rapper like persona, like.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
You know, fuck my haters type thing, you know what
I’m saying, Like that just you know what I mean.
But take those hard.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
For females, like we we get criticized more as you know,
as females, and they’re in that rapper category because it’s
predominantly male. She talk about things that a lot of
people are not uncomfortable. A lot of people are not
comfortable speaking on.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
I mean, we did have Prena all that.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I think all they like are on top and they’re
like speaking their mind and they’re in their own lane.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
They all get like some.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
Sort of like you know, they get this big following
of hate, but it’s still a following, you know what
I mean. People are still following everything they do, everything
they say. Like so I feel like haters are still
they’re like low key like they they still fuck with you.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
It’s just they don’t know it yet. It’s interesting.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
It’s interesting because you know, Sexy Red has definitely made
a lane for herself.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
She is I like, I feel she is very relatable to.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
A lot of the young girls in the hood and
like and really just like that are trying to make it.
Single mamas out there grinding, hustling for their kids and
shout out to Missouri, you know, like that’s the show
me state. That’s where we’re known from, That’s where I’m from,
and we like to let people know.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Who we are and really be ourselves.
Speaker 2 (15:59):
And I feel like she is really just the epitome
of like I’m gonna have these babies, I’m gonna do this.
I got a little bread I’m gonna take care home.
I’m gonna talk my shit, and I’m gonna be creative
and be myself. Going back to seeing her at Roland
Loud Live, the crowd was so engaged with her presence
and her energy. She is top notch. For me, like
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I was a believer at first. I was like, Okay,
she’s got a lot to talk about and you know
who that’s making me, like Reil said, a little uncomfortable.
But she’s expressing her creative side and she has a
lane where she is very comfortable in and you know,
I like to really give her flowers in her way,
just because she was out there in her sneakers and
(16:44):
really dancing and engaging with the audience and they loved it.
So I was actually, she has hits. I mean she’s
with She’s like with Drake got a hit with her.
So she’s becoming mainstream and we’re talking about her, and
I think she just represents the like just a lot
of what is America and what people and just really
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you know, have come from the gutter and really have
trying to make a name for themselves. She represents that
in so many ways, and I hate that she feels
that hate. But again, I feel like what Ashley you said,
As far as you know, this is the rappers persona.
They all are very sensitive about their craft too, you know,
at the end of the day, and.
Speaker 1 (17:27):
I think she just has to stay stay herself.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
That’s what has gotten her this far and as long
as she’s not hurting anybody, like just.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
Do you you know?
Speaker 2 (17:36):
I hate that she feels that way though, but it
goes in ebbs and and ebbs and flows different. Yeah, yeah,
I agree. So I’m curious though, Yeah that’s true. Tell
me y’all top three female rappers?
Speaker 1 (17:51):
Sure, el go, wait now we have to we have
to change it up. I can’t.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I have we have to do different eras. Whoa see
what you did there around? Okay, tell me just your
top three? Who you’re playing right now? It don’t have
to be top like care about old I.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
Can’t compare my old school female repers to my new school.
So okay, tell me who you’re playing right now? Though?
Who are you playing right now?
Speaker 2 (18:20):
Right now, right now? I got NICKI top three right now,
Kirky Nicki, Mina fixy Red, she she got some here
and lotto.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Okay, who you got? I have Nikki, I have Lotto
and I have blow Okay, okay, yeah, well I was
in there like whoa, yeah, talk to me, talk to me,
give me that.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Yeah, yeah, what I’m gonna go with I’m gonna go
with you already spent? Nicki Minaj is my spot? Have
y’all heard of Mona La no nor up when you’re
working out?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
But you have used to music? Play that, and then
saying I was thinking her, is she considered rappers? She
consider Yeah? I like her? That means is dose you
considered rapper too? Yeah? I think so? Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Mm hmm, I just think that. But I hate the
women are just doing what would you say?
Speaker 1 (19:43):
What about old.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
School the ill nine mm hmm, yeah, you know that is.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
And little Kim Little Kim huh dang.
Speaker 2 (19:58):
I mean, oh, that’s that’s our old school generation because
we can even go back to like you have teeth,
Corniel mcad.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
That’s another one. You’re taking me that, Yeah, go y’all.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I don’t want to have an Atlanta party at my
house where we play only like well mostly like Atlanta.
Let’s do it, and we got to dress like two thousands,
like like white teeth dress, flouchstocks and like all the
Atlanta rap I like that. Let’s do that.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
Let’s do it, y’all know. I know Georgia is.
Speaker 2 (20:48):
It’s me, So I’m gonna be raysh Okay, I love that.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
I love that.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
What you that for?
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Lash Oh? I feel like that.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Back to Sexy Red in regards to I feel like
we don’t support and ride for our female rappers like
we should. Like. I feel like people drop on the
bandwag and just push but as much hate there should
be as more celebration because she is painting a way
(21:21):
even though some people don’t like the way she what
she talk about or what she rap about. But generations
before spoke and talk about the same thing. You have
your male rappers degrading women talking about stuff, and people
vibe to it. But as soon as a female come
and speak on it, it’s like, oh, she nasty. She like,
don’t nobody want to hear that type of music?
Speaker 1 (21:40):
Blah blah blah blah blah. But she’s making hits. Yeah,
she’s making hits.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
But I feel like, you know, also this day and age,
I feel like people are sensitive and it’s always been
pushed back. It’s always been like somebody who doesn’t like
what you are putting out, what you doing, what you’re saying,
what you’re wearing, Like it’s always going to be that,
and we need to just be reinforcing like self love
(22:07):
and like believing in yourself and not listening to what
other people say and just going out there and doing
your thing, and stop putting so much energy into the haters.
Like it’s always been people be people out here who
don’t like what we’re doing. It’s people who don’t like
the Humble Baddy’s podcast, and they all go to hell,
but we still gonna show up and we gotta do
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you know what I’m saying, Like, we don’t need to
give our energy into the people who are hating us.
There are so many people that love us, who are
reporting us, who do love O, who do love our podcasts,
who do want to hear what we have to say,
who do you know, just enjoy whatever we are putting
out into the world. And those are the people that
we need to be speaking energy into and giving all
(22:50):
of our you know, energy too. So I feel like,
you know, it’s always going to be haters, Ignore the haters,
and keep doing Slexi Red like we see you, you’re
being seen and keep doing what you’re doing. But the
good thing about it, the haters are the ones that
keep your relevant because they’re always sting on you. Yeah,
if they not hating on you, you ain’t doing it right.
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It’s just out to Cardi B and Meg the Stallion too.
I know we didn’t mention them, but they are the
forces of their own you know. I just I really
enjoy being very confident in my skin with the ladies.
They are very much. They just we just have fallen
in love with these ladies and really much can feel
empowered by them. So shout out to all the ladies,
(23:34):
all the rappers that are doing that thing, because you’re
necessary and needed for sure.
Speaker 1 (23:43):
Yeah great, y’all.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
So the next topic I would like to talk about
is Nellie and Ashanti. So he recently did an interview
where he mentioned that one of the reasons that he
decided to marry a Shy was so that she would
not be a baby mama.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
So what do you guys think about that?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Do you think that is you know, is that him
being a gentleman or do you think that’s like, I
don’t know, a cot out or like, what do you
guys think about that? I think he really loves Ashanti,
and he genuinely married her because he loves her. I
think him of her becoming pregnant sped up the process,
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but he genuinely, genuinely did I say, love her, and
and I respect it like he and he has so
much love for her that he don’t want the public
to call her his baby mama.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Okay, So do you think there’s something wrong with being
called a baby?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
I think it’s some pigma in nine communities for that
for sure, you know, because I feel like an other
community is partner or you know, significant other child, my mother,
father of my child. You know, did a white people
call the baby mama? I think they do because we
normalize it.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Yeah, I ain’t never heard no white man call his baby. Mind,
I don’t think so, That’s what I’m saying. I don’t
ask somebody. I don’t. I don’t think so.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
But I mean I think they say it in more
so like this generation of I don’t have to be
married to have a baby, you know what I’m saying,
or whatever the case may be. But I feel like,
you know, I kind of try to shy away from
saying baby mama because low KEI I’m nobody’s baby mama.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Like as much work as I put in.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
As much soul and time that I put into these kids,
I’m their mother. So are you gonna respectfully put me
on that pedestal and make sure everyone else is calling
me that too? So I feel like with Nellie, this
is he’s showing us growth, He’s showing us so many
like he that he loves, that he loves her.
Speaker 1 (25:57):
He’s like, you’re not gonna this woman that is carrying
my child. I am now old enough home. Yeah you
that is my wife.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
She is the mother of my children, and you’re gonna
address her as such. And I feel like that has
to be put on a pedestal too, because Loki, you’re
not gonna always just get married after having a baby,
like people you know aren’t using protection.
Speaker 1 (26:19):
You might turn around and not like the person the
next week. It happens. It very much, so well happened.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
So you know, I feel like people we got to
change the stigma of calling people baby mama, baby daddy.
But I feel like it comes from a heaviness or
something that’s going on between the relationship of the parents
and not thinking about the child. Because I feel like,
you we have to be very much healthy in our
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situations and our homes, really raising these kids. And he’s
trying to do the right thing of now bringing this
child up in a two parent household, which we know
statistically is better, and he’s trying to do it right.
So shout out to Nelly for that, because we want
we want not and I respect like he knows that
(27:05):
Ashanti is an icon.
Speaker 1 (27:07):
She is that girl. Like, you’re not about to y’all
not about to disrespect my wife. This is who she is.
She is my wife. Yeah, we need more of this.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
We need more of people men making their girls their wives. Like,
we need more representation of this, you know, because a
lot of times I feel like every day we’re seeing
so and so it’s pregnant, so and so it’s having
a baby. So you know, we don’t see a lot
of so and so it’s getting married. So I think
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that’s important.
Speaker 1 (27:40):
Yeah, I agree, we love.
Speaker 2 (27:43):
I rather have two healthy parents and two separate households
than you know, two parents.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
And one under one roof of resentment. Like it’s just
not healthy at all.
Speaker 2 (27:54):
So he’s putting out that energy of look, this is
what it is we out here.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (28:01):
I mean I I’d rather be called a co parent,
a partner mother of my children. Here, do you think
when I so, I’m gonna I’m gonna take it back
and ask a question that will be very controversy. If
she was not pregnant, do you think he would have
married her? I think so because you know right in there,
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like I think so, because that statement that he made
was I married her so she wouldn’t be That is
why people are in an uproar, like she wouldn’t be
labeled as a baby mama.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
So I don’t think the response should have been that.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
Because now it’s making it look like, oh, he only
married her so she wouldn’t be labeled as a baby
I think I think he did the right thing. Like,
it’s just we have to give credit where credit is due.
And keep in mind they did date in the past.
So this is almost like that saying of if you
love something, less to go if it comes back as yours.
So they have history, you know, they have history of
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they know each other. It’s not like it was rushed,
like I just met her and now she’s pregnant, so
let me lock it down because I’m grown now. No,
it’s really a sense of you know what I’m not doing.
I’m doing something different this time.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
We have a child. We’re building a legacy.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
This is we’re breaking generational curses and the energy of
like not marrying the mother of our children. So he’s
trying to start a new legacy and really continue his
musical legacy and really transform his his really just his
persona of now he’s a family man and he can
settle down and he can be focused on his family
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and doing everything for them. So low key, I feel
like it was next. It should have been marriage. You know,
maybe the baby. The baby’s got there a little bit before,
but it should have been marriage anyway. If they bring
it back around and you don’t want her to be
with no one else. And y’all see the difference now
between when y’all were younger, seven or eight years ago
to now when you’re grown and make these sound decisions.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
It actually is better. I’m glad they brought a baby
up now later on than seven years ago.
Speaker 2 (30:09):
I’m welcome you as to why people getting such an
uproar about uh, who’s getting married or whatever or who’s not.
Speaker 1 (30:19):
But it’s okay to have a baby, like, oh, she’s.
Speaker 2 (30:22):
Pregnant all right pregnant, you know what I mean, Like
it’s just weird, Like why would you guys be okay
with her just being pregnant and being a baby mama.
Why is that more like acceptable and more like less
controversial than him actually wanting to make her his wife.
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I think people are in the uproar because of the
statement he said, I didn’t want her to be labeled
as the baby mama. So it’s make people like dive
in on, Oh, well, you just married her because you
got her pregnant. Yes, we know she had a previous relationship,
they had a pregiance relationship, but why say you know
I only married not only but I didn’t. I don’t
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want people to like her as my baby mama. That’s
why people are all right in these words and losing
it like y’all don’t know that relationship, and then y’all
be so happy when they got back together, while wouldn’t
y’all be happy that He’s exactly It’s like it’s always
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going to be something.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
I’m I’m happy. I love it. I love Ushanti and
Ellie like they are a beautiful couple.
Speaker 2 (31:36):
I just don’t like he don’t have to I didn’t
like how I married her so she wouldn’t be able
to as a baby mama.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
He didn’t have to say that, like, just marry her.
Speaker 2 (31:47):
Yeah, maybe he didn’t mean it like that, but I
will say like I was not married when I got pregnant,
and I didn’t want to be a baby mama.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
I didn’t want nobody to call me in every mama either.
And I also.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Feel like I did put pressure on Phil to propose
to me once I was pregnant, but ultimately he didn’t
care about that pressure at all. And looking back, I
feel like like I’m glad that I know that he
didn’t marry me just because I’m pregnant.
Speaker 1 (32:26):
So I feel like, yeah, like making a statement like that.
Speaker 2 (32:31):
Does kind of like sale the whole engagement, you know
what I mean, Like you want to be married to
somebody because they want to marry you, because they want
to spend the rest of their life with you, not
because you’re pregnant. And so I’m just saying, like, looking back,
like I’m glad like I got married because you know,
we want to be together forever, not because I just
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happen to be pregnant. So yeah, that’s a weird statement
to make, but you know, we’re supposed to be by
in our business and you know, wishing people well, especially
people who are you know, doing things positively, moving in
a positive direction. You know, marriage is hard, it’s not easy,
so why pressure put that it’s and it’s not hard
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being pregnant, and it’s not hard like having babies and
toddlers and all these different stages either. So you want
the help, you know, you you want someone there for you,
but it doesn’t always work out that way. There’s this
influx of women that just want to be single mothers
by choice, you know, they can if they’re just ready
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to have children and just really be a mother themselves.
So I just think we are just in this space
of where we’re kind of transitioning to you can really
do whatever you want to do. And there’s so many
labels out there now. So it’s just like, I mean,
technically now I’m considered a single mom, you know, and
that shit was not by choice, you know what I mean,
it’s just by default divorce. So it’s like, you know,
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now I’m putting this category, but at the same time,
I still have the help of their father, and I
still am able to do the things.
Speaker 1 (34:06):
I need to do so like the stigma is changing.
I feel in that kind of way. And that’s what’d
you guys have pressure?
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Do you do you think like you would pressure a
man into marrying you if you became pregnant, anyone of
y’all would you tried to feel into it, and he
was like it, fuck what you’re talking about. I get
it’s a baby in there, and that’s cool.
Speaker 1 (34:29):
I’m gonna be here. I’m the pathy cool. But he
like I was like, you know, I’m pregnant, let’s go,
let’s get married with you. Wait you on, like he
did not care. But I you know, I was raised.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
You think it’s because you wanted that because of everyone
else also of what they were gonna say.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
Well yeah, and like that’s just how I was raised.
That’s just how I was brought up.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
You know. I thought I was gonna go to hell,
like you know what kind of thing, you know what, like, yeah,
we can’t bring were shaking up actions, we can’t bring
the baby in this world with now Mary.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
Exactly before the like my dad stopped talking to me,
like I just was like, oh my god, Like what
am I doing?
Speaker 2 (35:13):
I didn’t did the worst thing ever, you know what
I mean like, so, yeah, I did put a lot
of pressure on film.
Speaker 1 (35:23):
Looking back, That’s what I’m saying.
Speaker 2 (35:25):
Now, I feel like I’m glad that he wasn’t moved
by me saying like, let’s get married because I’m pregnant,
because now I know he wanted to be with me,
not because of the baby because.
Speaker 1 (35:37):
He looked meat.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
You don’t want to force a man to marry you
and be with you because you’re pregnant, because now he
marrying you for the wrong reasons. Like I want if
a man comes to me and marry and marry me,
I want you to marry me because you love me,
not because he brought a child in this world.
Speaker 1 (35:55):
Like you love me.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
We’re gonna grow together, We’re gonna be all together. That
does start the energy off a little rocky for the nuptials. Yeah,
I understand what you’re saying. I had three and a
half babies before I got married that were out in
the world thriving.
Speaker 1 (36:11):
So I was definitely baby mama.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
I was, you know, going to the the arenas all around,
and you know, the name is not matching the last
name of everything, so it got annoying, and doctor’s appointments
and things like that, but I did feel yeah, yeah, yeah,
I mean like, dang, that’s the baby mama there she go. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (36:34):
But you know, some states have come in law marriage.
Speaker 2 (36:37):
I mean, y’all were together for years before y’all, you know,
solidified it. Some states, you know, acknowledged marriage and you’re not.
You don’t have to do the paperwork just because that’s
how many years you’ve been together and or under the
same roof too. For sure, Arizona was.
Speaker 1 (36:54):
Not having it. My mama and daddy do not care
about no common law marriage.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
Okay, my mama and dam in this household, y’all, it’s
down there as it’s helpful, it’s still bill. Mama looks like,
so what y’all gonna do? Okay, Like she was dead ass, like, so,
what’s a plan? It’s been possibilities. It is it is.
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But do y’all think that marriage really changes a relationship
or is it just paperwork?
Speaker 1 (37:30):
Mm hmm, Like you feel like.
Speaker 2 (37:32):
Marriage kids relationship because so many people have put out.
Speaker 1 (37:41):
Like what marriage supposed to be.
Speaker 2 (37:43):
Like we go into a marriage and we’re like, oh,
we’re supposed to change now that we’re married, We’re supposed
to do this, And it makes I feel like it
makes the relationship more strict.
Speaker 1 (37:54):
I just feel like the world has changed.
Speaker 2 (37:56):
What what marriage really is really is, and sports and
especially American has scared people away from becoming married, especially
ments there. And then when you get a divorce, you know, oh,
they worry about what what if we don’t make it
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work and we have to go through a divorce. All
that I brought to the table, now I have to
split it and I lose a lot of things because
now that we’re married, and we have the outside coming
into our marriage telling us what we should do once
we separate.
Speaker 1 (38:30):
So it’s a lot.
Speaker 2 (38:32):
It’s a lot to weigh on when you do get married,
what you think about if it doesn’t work.
Speaker 1 (38:37):
It’s just a lot.
Speaker 2 (38:38):
Yeah, Historically we got married because we need a credit,
you know, we need to get a job.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
We needed some extra income for the household.
Speaker 2 (38:46):
That’s how that’s what marriage really started from back in
the day, was you know, in order to have your
own cars, things in your name, you had to get married.
And so now it’s turned into like, you know, let
me solidify this partnership, this relationship, and it’s really became now.
I feel like it still was the business contract, but
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now it’s become a business contract. Going back to what
you said, real the pre nupts, the options of what
these things are, which is very valid and very safe
and very protective and very necessary.
Speaker 1 (39:19):
But it does start to.
Speaker 2 (39:20):
Hinder when you have to add the paperwork of like,
you know, before we get married, let’s talk about this,
because it is two people, two whole people are coming
together and causing one union, and now there are separation
of bills, there’s one household, there’s you know, children, there’s
all kinds of things these factors. So I feel like,
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low key, I know we’ve had this discussion a little
bit before of like wou’d you get married again? Or
things like that, but like I’m starting to see the
influx of like partnerships and like these long term committed
relationships or people are just still doing what they want
to do and whatever or their marriage looks like to
them is what it’s gonna be because at the end
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of the day, you got to live with this person,
and if y’all decide to go to your own way,
you just can.
Speaker 1 (40:10):
Keep it going without like paperwork or anything like that.
Speaker 2 (40:13):
So it’s almost like, what are the benefits of marriage
outside of partnership outside of you know, business contracts, the.
Speaker 1 (40:21):
Piece of paper, those things like that, you know it’s
just per person at this point, that.
Speaker 2 (40:29):
Contract, it is a legal issue, a legal document. Like
I do think you should both have lawyers. I think
you should protect yourself. But at the end of the day,
like I still believe, like marriage is something that you
do under God, Like you know you here Undergud.
Speaker 1 (40:46):
This is an oath that you take under God.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
So like, you know, you can protect yourself legally, like
if you want to take the steps and make sure
like you don’t want her to get any of what
you guy, you don’t want him, Like, there’s ways that
you can protect yourself, and that’s easy. I mean, it
might not be the easiest conversation, but there’s ways to
protect yourself. And then everything else I think is you know,
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you see guidance under God, like you get marriage caunceling,
like before you get married, Like there’s things and there’s
ways to like.
Speaker 1 (41:22):
That might help you see marriage differently, you know what
I mean.
Speaker 2 (41:27):
Like if you let all these outside worldly things stop
you from seeing the greatness of what marriage can be,
then yeah, it’s not gonna work. But if we remember,
like what marriage is and what it’s for. You know,
what the foundation of marriage is. Then I think there’s
a chance for it and it may not seem so
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scary because you have the tools and you have everything
that you need in place to give it a chance
to seem to not come from a place of fear,
because I don’t think that’s what marriage should feel like.
It shouldn’t feel you know, once you let all these
worldly teations like a felt right. So I mean, it’s
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just unfortunate that that’s where we are. But I mean
it’s real. It’s real, and that’s why we need more
like representation. We need more people talking about it. We
need more men who are gary to have conversations with
men aren’t or you know, the men who do want
to be married, like y’all need to get out here
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and like talk to the women and tell them, like,
you know, just we need a talk because I think
there are people out here who still believe in being
who still want it, they’re just afraid it’s coming from fear.
I agree with you, Ashley, a place of fear in
the unknown. But it’s not easy. You have to be ready, too,
willing and able participants for sure, locked in do you
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all feel like if a man doesn’t marry the mother
of is like someone else, a woman that’s pregnant, do
you feel like he’s not being responsible.
Speaker 1 (43:05):
Or vice versa, Like if a lady is like, you
know what, we’ll just keep it separate.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
I feel like if a man doesn’t step up and
take care of the responsibility of having a child and
making sure the mother of that child is in a space,
that’s not saying that he needs to take care of her,
But if that’s the mother of your child, like I
do feel like there is some responsibility there and if
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he doesn’t step up, then I would say he is
irresponsible because bringing a child into this world changes everything,
whether you’re married.
Speaker 1 (43:41):
I don’t think.
Speaker 2 (43:42):
I don’t think you should marry a woman just because
you bring a child in this world. Like I said before,
even when it comes to Nellie and Ashatti, I feel
like before a child, before anything, a man will know
if he wants.
Speaker 1 (43:55):
To marry that woman or not.
Speaker 2 (43:56):
Yeah, but doesn’t make him less responsible, that’s what she
was saying it right, But the kid and the mom
in the situation, then yeah, I think it makes him
less responsible. It’s not about marriage, it’s about the child.
It’s about making sure that they’re being taken care of,
and you step up differently. You can’t step up in
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the same way. You can’t be you can’t move in
the same way. Once you bring a child in. You
might not get married, but you definitely got to do more.
It is a difference just yours, the responsibility of another human. Now,
it’s not just like y’all are dating. It’s not like
you’re just boyfriend and girlfriend even though.
Speaker 1 (44:36):
You’re not married.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
It’s changes like it’s it’s a big change. And I
think to like act like it’s a light, like it’s
something light. I think it’s it’s would be an active irresponsibility.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
Understand. I get that. Okay, well shut out. We need more.
We need more. Are these husbands to speak on how
happy happily they are in the midstar recruiting more? Yeah,
ain’t your husband? And I maybe love that. We loved that.
Speaker 2 (45:13):
Body and y’all did y’all speak what was going on
with Jess Hilarious and La Rossa on the Breakfast Club? Yes?
Speaker 1 (45:29):
I did not like seeing that.
Speaker 2 (45:32):
I didn’t love it either. It wasn’t It wasn’t great.
But at the same time, it is a platform of
voicing your opinion. It very much is like, you know,
you have two masculine energies of you know, Charlemagne and
dj Envy, and we know them as speaking their mind,
and here you have two ladies that are almost low key.
(45:54):
We’re getting almost pitted against each other. And it was
I’m sure you know, Jess is very much outspoken. Obviously,
that’s why she’s sitting in the next year. Yeah, that’s
the reason why she’s there. You know what I’m saying
the same with you know, Loro’s the same thing. You
know what I mean that both are in their own right,
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just very much deserving and being there. It was very
heartbreaking to see them really kind of going at it,
but then they.
Speaker 1 (46:21):
Were very honest.
Speaker 2 (46:22):
I mean, obviously we need to understand why there is
this energy in that small space. You know, I personally
don’t listen to them on the radio. I can’t remember
the last time I was listening to any talk on
the radio. It’s now streaming, so now we’re able to
see their reactions. We’re able to in real time like
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really like understand what they’re going through.
Speaker 1 (46:46):
And she’s just come off of having a baby. This
is like off of maternity leave.
Speaker 2 (46:50):
So I don’t know how I would feel like if
I was out of the loop, you know, kaling myself
and bringing this new life into the world and then
showing up to my job and you’re replaced. Of course,
my energy and my hormone is gonna be heightened, and
I’m gonna feel some kind of way because now things
have kept it moving, which they should. But at the
same time, I’m gonna feel like I’m, you know, replaceable,
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especially when you feel like you were irreplaceable.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Yeah, exactly. I feel like it.
Speaker 2 (47:20):
First, I feel like they should have never had the
conversation live. I feel like they should have spoke and
and talked it out. It was.
Speaker 1 (47:28):
I felt like there was a lot of miscommunication with them.
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Of course, you know, it can be like, Okay, this
was mine and I had this platform, but now you’re
not hearing what I’m saying. I felt like it was
just too much communication, and I feel like they both
had good intentions, but no one was there to help them.
Speaker 1 (47:50):
INTERVENI and mediate a little bit here they are mediate correct? Interesting, right,
I think you know the way that Angelie Ye left.
Speaker 2 (48:05):
From the Breakfast Club, I think kind of just should
have known the environment that it might be. So it’s like,
you know, she left for maternity leave or whatever, and
they well, first they did this big rollout for Jess.
It was like this big thing like she’s coming on right,
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remember that the interviews and like, yeah, it was so
big like that. Everybody was so excited. Everybody was so happy,
like Charlote Maine DJ Mby was just like everybody was
like it was good. Right. Then she was pregnant, she
has to go to maternity leave or whatever. And then
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she they bring in what’s her name, Lauren Rossa, Like
that’s her last Yeah, so they bring her in and
it’s like, okay, cool, but like, did y’all talk to
Jess about it? Like did y’all fully because that’s just
vouts for her, right, I know? But then they said,
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like she was only supposed to be doing her segment right,
and so I feel like something was lost in communication
when she was coming back, how that transition was gonna be,
Like that should have all been laid out and clearly
it wasn’t. And like you said, Lex, like when you’re
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pregnant just had a baby, like your hormones are all
over the place, and I that environment probably is like
a male dominant space. Like there’s probably nobody speaking up
for just in that way while she’s gone, you know
what I mean. And I think it’s just kind of
unfortunate that she would have to come back and have
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to deal with that and have to like.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
Speak up for herself. But you know, she’s not like
a corporate person.
Speaker 2 (49:58):
Yeah, so of course she’s he’s on the radio form,
he’s a personality.
Speaker 1 (50:05):
She got to say out, you know what I mean,
in the way that she did it.
Speaker 2 (50:08):
So it’s like we can’t get mad at her for
you know, like speaking her mind in the way that
she does, because that’s where that’s how she got to
where she is. And then but it’s unfortunate that it’s
like these two black women on this black huge Bird
and Charlemagne, I feel like they just sit in back
kind of like watching them to have this back and forth.
(50:32):
You know. I feel like they didn’t really like pick
sides or anything, but they didn’t really help the situation either.
Speaker 1 (50:38):
Yeah, And I ain’t like that at all. And I
feel like, you know, seeing you know, Angela lie, Angela
ye leave. You know, I can kind of see why too.
Speaker 2 (50:48):
And I think Jess said that because it’s like y’all
just sitting here letting this happen, y’all not speaking up for.
Speaker 1 (50:55):
Show it whatsoever? What are you doing? It’s tough. I
just I just want them to win.
Speaker 2 (51:04):
They’re both amazing hosts. They’re they’re both beautiful women. They
do great in the chustreet and us as black women,
we should come together and show that we can work
together without taking over each other’s spotlight. Like and those
two men, they need to be there to support them,
to help them, to keep them shy, not throwing rocks,
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trying to oh, you know, cause confusion, not saying that
they are. But as us as black women, we have
to learn to work together. We have to stick together
and not put it if we’re going through things the
world shouldn’t know about it, Like let’s have a conversation,
let’s talk it out, let’s figure it out and be
better at it. That’s what be tired. We are exhausted.
(51:49):
It gets exhausting. And you know, we can say this
as being black women, like we’re saying, you know how
that term is. We’re gonna sit this one out because
we are always graceful. We’re always trying to stand up
for ourselves. We are always trying to be the the
you know, the bigger person, and you know, it gets
draining and very tiring. You know, we are tie it,
(52:11):
we tie it, we added you know, we’re just exhausted
from trying to over extend ourselves really be the saviors.
You know.
Speaker 1 (52:20):
It’s just I wish she just had a little bit
more support exactly.
Speaker 2 (52:25):
And that’s all of these support and communication, Let’s figure
this shit out.
Speaker 1 (52:30):
Let’s show the world that we can work together as
black women.
Speaker 2 (52:33):
And do you think it was a little calculating because
it was like, we’re watching it, we’re talking about it,
there’s views, there’s it’s trending. And then to turn around,
like almost a couple of days later, Lrosa, she ended
up announcing her new show, her or you know, her
new platform. So what do y’all think about that? I
(52:56):
don’t think it was calculated. I think, you know, Jess
what’s trying to express herself and she just had enough.
She went live, and because she went live, they want
the next day they addressed it, and it you know,
everything just happened, right Yeah, And you know, the guys
gonna eat it up, They’re gonna tear it up and
(53:17):
talk about it. Let’s talk about it live right now.
So I understand that, well, you got Humble body mail
for us, it’s about that time.
Speaker 1 (53:26):
It’s about that time.
Speaker 2 (53:29):
It is.
Speaker 1 (53:31):
You got you got it for us. I can’t wait
for this one. We got it? Okay? Hey you bad?
Speaker 2 (53:39):
So I need I need, you’ll unpinion it doesn’t say
where it’s coming from, coming from? I need y’all undis
opinion because I’m really stuck on this one. I’ve been
dating this guy for over a year and a half
and we finally planned our first vacation together, which is
a Royal Caribbean Christians. They said, ain’t what’s the other
one part of? At least that carnival girl. I was
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super excited, but then he hit me with the your
paying for your half? Right?
Speaker 1 (54:12):
He wasn’t joking.
Speaker 2 (54:13):
Now, I get that, wearing that my third world and all,
but I kind of feel like if a man is
taking me on vacation, he should be covering it, especially
if he’s the first that act and it’s our first
trip together. Am I being unrealistic? Or is he just
giving up? Giving broke broke energy baggies? Hy’all? Do? Would
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you happily split the bill or is this a red
flag for how he handles relationships in general. Please, Well,
I’m gonna go ahead and say this as an avid traveler,
I mean all three of us are avid travelers.
Speaker 1 (54:46):
Right, If I’m with this guy after a year and a.
Speaker 2 (54:50):
Half, he knows how I move, he knows how I eat,
he knows how I dine and and really take why fly?
Speaker 1 (55:01):
You know how you move?
Speaker 2 (55:02):
So a year and a half and y’all talking about vacation,
you’re going on a cruise, and these cruises are very expensive,
their time consuming, but they’re fun.
Speaker 1 (55:11):
It’s very intimate setting. But a year and a half,
you should know what time it is.
Speaker 2 (55:17):
And I feel like if you invested that time in
this person, you can invest in their space, especially because
you’re not in two separate estate rooms. You know, you
were in your sharing one bed in one cabin. So
cruises are meant for you to really not go to sleep.
So you’re with this person all the time, you’re doing
the excursions, you’re doing, you’re eating your wine, tasting whatever
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you want to do. So, obviously, if you want to
spend time with this person after a year and a
half of getting to know them best.
Speaker 1 (55:50):
Believe you should be fitting the bill for this.
Speaker 2 (55:53):
I mean, if you can’t afford not to be there,
you shouldn’t be going. But sis, I think he needs
to take care of it. I know one thing with me,
even just dating and courting and things like that, I
feel like the men that approach me or know who
I am, know that I’m well traveled and there’s a
way that I travel and that doesn’t have to necessarily
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be first class or things like that, but there’s gonna
be things that I want to do.
Speaker 1 (56:17):
I like getting massages. I like a view of the ocean.
I like these things.
Speaker 2 (56:21):
And if this man is intentional about being with somebody,
they should be investing in you.
Speaker 1 (56:28):
Exactly, ask a man.
Speaker 2 (56:30):
If you ask her like I’m somewhere, you better pay
on the paper it Why am I paying?
Speaker 1 (56:38):
I feel like the men.
Speaker 2 (56:39):
I feel like the men are gonna say it’s a test, Yeah,
well a year and a half tests.
Speaker 1 (56:45):
But I don’t know, No, I don’t know.
Speaker 2 (56:49):
I feel like men are all about like trying to
see I don’t know, like is she a gold digger
and not shit? I don’t like the ones that I
have it or not having They’re not saying that you
know what I mean, Well, he might not have it
to like squrds like that, but then that’s why I
think there should be like a conversation. Like I feel
like it’s like, okay, what if he doesn’t have it
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like that, but he really likes you, he really wants
to go on this vacation with you, but he can’t
afford your part, then he can.
Speaker 1 (57:18):
Find a nice way to be like, hey, can we
I don’t see nothing wrong with one thing about this.
Speaker 2 (57:25):
You got to put a deposit down before you even
step foot on that boat. Baby.
Speaker 1 (57:29):
They are not checking you in unless everything is clear.
Speaker 2 (57:32):
I know.
Speaker 1 (57:33):
That’s why I’m saying.
Speaker 2 (57:34):
That’s why I’m saying he may not have it, but
I feel like it’s okay, Like as long as it’s
not okay, it’s not just very irrespond because if you
don’t have the it is because if you don’t have
the money, then why are you asking to go on
a cruise? You need to get your priorities together before
we go.
Speaker 1 (57:51):
We gotta payer why conversation and that could be a conversation.
But I’m just saying, like.
Speaker 2 (57:58):
I’m just trying to think about it from okay, y’all
are some bougie bitches. Okay, I’m trying to think about it,
trying to think about it, you know, in a different way. Okay,
So I’m just saying like he might not be as
well traveled as you lex no churel.
Speaker 3 (58:20):
I’m just thinking for the people I know. I’m just saying,
not you, bish, I know you, not about you.
Speaker 1 (58:32):
If a man asked you to I’m not. I’m not
talking about us. I’m not talking about the bougie humble baddies.
Ain’t about being boosyndam. And it’s as a man.
Speaker 2 (58:50):
If you’re asking me to come on a trip you
mean to pay it ain’t no fucking testing.
Speaker 1 (58:56):
We’re not not. After a year and a half, I’m.
Speaker 2 (59:00):
No. We’ll go together and been together. But what were
you saying, ash No, I can’t hear you, Ashley can’t
hear you? She did?
Speaker 1 (59:13):
She got She’s then yeah, yeah, yes, will you saying boom.
Speaker 2 (59:18):
Okay yeah, jen A and I be pushing Okay, sir,
what if he’s not like a well traveled person and
neither is she and this is like them trying to,
you know, explore that option and he doesn’t know the
etiquette of like, Okay, if I want to go on
a vacation with a lady, I need to make sure
I have the funds, you know what I’m saying. So
I don’t I’m trying to answer this lady in a
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way not trying to ruin their relationship because we don’t know,
you know what I’m saying, Like we don’t know where
they’re are, where they are and their financials. We don’t
know where they are and their their relationship. So I’m
just saying, Okay, they want to go. He wants he
obviously wants to go on a trip with this lady
on a cruise or whatever. And he’s like, Okay, I
want to go, but can you pay your way? I
(01:00:02):
don’t think she should be like, ah, fuck this man.
He can’t plan to bake for me. I ain’t gonna
stop him, Like I don’t.
Speaker 1 (01:00:08):
Think you dream. So that’s why I’m excersion. So that’s why.
Speaker 2 (01:00:12):
So I’m saying, there’s a conversation that could be had
and you can let him know, like I feel like,
you know, you’re asking me to go on this vacation together,
and I think this is something that you should be
taken care of or whatever, like and then we can
go from there and figure out the conversation.
Speaker 1 (01:00:27):
I’m trying to help out. What’s the lady name? What
is anonymous? That’s not embarrassing, okay, but some people are
not there.
Speaker 2 (01:00:37):
I agree with you actually learning they should be going
to that scrips go and do a vacation.
Speaker 1 (01:00:47):
I don’t think the answer to our humble bad email
should be like absolutely, not finite, like no, like so
like okay, no, this shouldn’t.
Speaker 2 (01:00:58):
I don’t think you should go on this trip then
pay for yourself, but it should be aud be a conversation.
I’m gonna I’m gonna speak for myself and speak for
you because I want you to understand how we would
deal with this situation, all three of us on this platform.
Speaker 1 (01:01:15):
If he cannot pay your bill, your.
Speaker 2 (01:01:18):
Portion, and he have asked you, y’all don’t need to
be going on on trip because guess what when you
go on that cruise, you got a panel thing, you
don’t have everything. No, it’s not worth not worth it.
Speaker 1 (01:01:32):
Let’s have a conversation.
Speaker 2 (01:01:34):
Let’s have for yourself. Don’t speak for me, speak for you,
or lets let’s have a conversation. I can’t agree everybody
don’t ask. You don’t say at your point, let me talk,
but you was trying to speak for me. I don’t
speak for y’all. Let me have a conversation and say
you’re we’re not ready to plan. Let’s like you do,
(01:01:54):
figure it out, and once you have it figured out,
then you can plan us a trip.
Speaker 1 (01:01:58):
But I’m not spending fifty percent. And when you invited
me on a trip, you need to have it to
get before you can stay at home. That’s it’s cheaper
to stay at home.
Speaker 2 (01:02:06):
If you cannot afford it, you should not be going
because then there’s going to be other things that are
gonna come from that.
Speaker 1 (01:02:11):
You’re gonna have some some some issues, So you don’t
you know, I don’t want to do this.
Speaker 2 (01:02:16):
It’s like pulling out your your card every other time,
or like trying to keep checks and balance. It’s very expensive,
it’s time consuming, and if you cannot afford it, then
I feel like you guys should not go.
Speaker 1 (01:02:31):
Plain and simple.
Speaker 2 (01:02:33):
Exactly that is, figure it out, get your stuff together.
When you got your stuff together, me as a woman,
you’re a man, I want you to be able to
be in I shouldn’t have sent on a trip that
you asked me to go on. So once we figure
this out, then we can come back and have that
conversation about what we can going on this groups on
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this royal because you think about it, you’re using vacation hours,
your vacation days from your your job, like all these things.
You want some souvenirs, you want to upgrade, you want
to go to a parasling. I mean, you want to
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have all, you wanted to have everything. It’s vacation a
year and a half, Like that’s my thing.
Speaker 1 (01:03:20):
A year and a half. They’ve been together, So there
we go nose better than are know. Some gummies.
Speaker 2 (01:03:26):
Look at Ashley, hain’t hearing that she’s talking about some
Let’s have a conversation and talk it out. Now. I’m
trying to ruin nobody’s relationship about that. It’s just like
I don’t think I can afford it, Like it’s gonna
cause more. Obviously it’s something because she’s asking us and
we’re giving our opinions on it. And if a man
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is courting you, y’all been together for a year and
a half and he said, like, you know, let’s let’s
go on this vacation. Y’all doing this and he’s inviting her,
and I feel like and then you’re gonna turn around.
Speaker 1 (01:03:59):
And be like, but you gotta give me half. What
if she’s like, y’all can’t afford that half, so we
don’t need to be going.
Speaker 2 (01:04:06):
And then now he then locked in on something, and
now y’all feeling some kind of way because now you
gotta get a flight, you gotta, you know, make sure
you got a hotel the night before, all these things.
Speaker 1 (01:04:15):
It’s a lot.
Speaker 2 (01:04:18):
Gas every spot. You gotta pay for the WiFi, wi
fi everything. I mean, I don’t know, I don’t I
don’t think it’s not bad like y’all see it. We
at least it’s the one liner over the other one.
Because he ain’t even getting the you can drink heackage. Yeah,
(01:04:47):
y’all gonna be drinking water and that don’t cost more
issues because they be like, well, what what do they have?
What kind of risk band is that? Or why do
they have this? You know, you want to do it right.
Speaker 1 (01:04:58):
You want to do it right. That’s it.
Speaker 2 (01:05:01):
But anyway, thank y’all so much for submitting humble batty
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Speaker 1 (01:05:13):
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Speaker 1 (01:05:44):
Got it right, LANDA consistent with it, you know what
I’m saying. Thank you all for joining us tonight Monday.
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Speaker 2 (01:05:55):
Bye,
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